Expectations and Serenity

"Perhaps the best thing of all for me is to remember that my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. "Acceptance is the key to my relationship with God today. I never just sit and do nothing while waiting for Him to tell me what to do. Rather, I do whatever is in front of me to be done, and I leave the results up to Him; however it turns out, that’s God’s will for me."
– AA Big Book p. 431

And acceptance is the answer to ​all ​my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake.
– AA Big Book p. 417


Purpose of this meditation: To have a peaceful heart by realizing that God owns everything, being certain that God controls all matters, and everything in God's world is temporary.

Method ... Notice any expectations, give them to God (He has them anyway ), and use your breath as an anchor to stay present to the practice.


Start each meditation session by reminding yourself of your intention: TO HAVE A PEACEFUL HEART AND MIND.

Begin by sitting comfortably. Then take a couple of deep breaths, and notice the peace in your surroundings. (Even if you are standing in the middle of Times Square in New York - the underlying peace of God is right there).

As thoughts or feelings arise in you, just NOTICE any expectations that might arise. It is important to avoid judging them and to let them come freely.

After NOTICING each expectation, say to yourself mentally [giving it to God] "You alone I trust - thank you" and then return your attention to your breath - the breath is a great teacher.

Repeat this three part process (NOTICE expectations mentally say: "You alone I trust - thank you" and focus your breath) for the remainder of the session.

If you are just beginning a meditation practice, continue the meditation for about one minute longer than is comfortable. The goal is to get to about 20 minutes at which time the brain begins to change neurologically.

Always take what you get from each session remembering that God is listening and responding.


Remember God will guide if you but trust Him.

You will come to see that you need do nothing to get out of a problem you don’t have.

May the Lord shower you with His mercy and bless your affairs with His guidance.

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